We all dwell on unresolved personal conflicts from time to time. Who hasn’t ruminated on a hurtful comment or unintentional harm we might have caused someone? Feeling bad about something you did, or something done to you, is human. Congratulations on not being a psychopath!

我们有时会对未解决的个人冲突耿耿于怀。谁没有想过那些伤人的评论或自己可能无意中给他人带来的伤害呢？对自己做过的事或别人对你做过的事感到不安是很正常的现象。恭喜你，这说明你有同理心，不是冷漠无情的人！

But while it’s expected that the arguments we’ve had, the negative events we’ve experienced, and the major decisions we face haunt us, overthinking can also pile on new problems.

虽然我们通常会对过去的争执、经历的负面事件以及面临的重要决定念念不忘，但过度思考还可能带来新的麻烦。